Ask Mable: Can I Eat Before My Host is Seated?

Jane Smith asks,

““Is it proper to start eating before your host is seated?””

The answer to your question Jane is, it is not proper to do so. Guests should not take their seats at the table until they have been invited to do so by the host/hostess. As soon as the host/hostess takes a napkin to place on his/her lap, that’s a signal for the guests to do the same. Guests start eating only upon the host/hostess invitation unless otherwise directed.

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